For months I’d been asking God what the lesson was for me to learn concerning my husband’s illness. For those of you who don’t know, my husband Bobbie is in the last stages of dementia and has been placed in hospice care here at home. There are two scriptures that come to mind for me in this. One is …in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. (I Thessalonians 5:16-18 NKJV) and the other is what the apostle Paul said “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content:” (Philippians 4:11NKJV)

You’re probably asking yourself how can she find thankfulness in this trial? It gave me an opportunity to slow down from this rat race and change my perspective of the situation. Because of society’s dictates and thanks to social media, we oftentimes find ourselves looking at what’s wrong with our lives instead of being thankful and appreciating what is right with them. The reality is some of us don’t understand how precious a gift life is until there is a looming threat of it being taken away. Bobbie used to tell me all the time “People talk about being blessed. They don’t realize what a blessing good health really is.” There are just some things money simply cannot buy.

There are days I ask God to give us grace and mercy.

Each day when we are both blessed to wake up I tell God “Thank You LORD for giving us another day.” I am thankful that he is still eating and drinking his food. I am thankful that he can still somewhat get around. When I see that twinkle in Bobbie’s eyes I am so grateful and it gives me joy in my heart. Some days he’s up and some days he’s down. There are days I ask God to give us grace and mercy. And even with a caregiver, it can be taxing at times.

When he looks down and unhappy I take out the time to sit with him, hold his hand and talk with him even though he cannot answer it’s as if he feels a sort of comfort when I hold his hand. This is something I never did very much when he was in good health because I was too busy being distracted by unimportant matters—taking life for granted; thinking he’d always be there. I am also learning to take one day at a time, live in the moment and be content in that.

Now time is made to tell him he’s my best friend, how much he is loved, and how great a father and husband he is to the children and me. And for him to have fought this disease as valiantly as he has thus far he has the heart of a king. Usually, the tears began to flow upon such confessions because they are heartfelt and I wish I could’ve told him these things more often when we could communicate.

Learn not to worry but walk in faith.

How do you learn to be thankful in the midst of adverse circumstances? Learn to be compassionate and not complain. Learn to focus and not walk in fear. Learn not to worry but walk in faith. For every negative find a positive. Change your perspective. Don’t take life for granted. Take time with those you love now don’t keep putting it off. There are times when you just have to forget what you think you know and walk in blind faith no matter what. Constantly asking God for His direction.

I believe Jesus said it best… And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. (Mark 11:22 NKJV)

May the Blessings of the LORD be with you today and always. Thank you for your continued readership and support. Until next week…Blessings and Peace!

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    • Thank you so much Phillippi. We need much prayer. Thank God for this important reminder. He gave me the subject matter to write. Thank you so much for stopping by. Have a blessed and prosperous week.

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